Marlo Sollitto | Updated February 2, 2021
Tips for Balancing Marriage and Caring for Aging Parents
While the things necessary for maintaining a strong marriage may be seem obvious, it is easy for them to fall by the wayside when life gets too hectic. Don’t procrastinate. If you struggle with finding the right time to have conversations, make a standing appointment for you and your significant other to check in with each other.
1. No topic is off limits. Talk about whatever is on your mind and allow your spouse do the same without judgement.
2. Remember to listen. Be sure to really listen to what they are saying. Sometimes it’s helpful to repeat back what they say in your own words to ensure there is no confusion or misinterpretation.
3. Don’t wallow in self-pity. It takes a conscious effort to examine your thoughts and turn negative voices into positive ones. Constant negativity can sap the energy and lightheartedness out of any relationship, even the most important one: the relationship you have with yourself.
4. Don’t cast blame. The blame game is very destructive. Rather than casting blame, find ways to work as a team with your spouse and others to improve your predicament.
5. Practice teamwork. If your spouse feels that you two rarely get quality time together anymore, clarify that their assistance with a few tasks would free up some time for you to reconnect. Remember, many hands make light work.
6. Give each other space. You must take care of yourself before you can take care of others. This applies in marriage, parenting and caregiving.
7. Keep the flame alive. Make time for fun and romance together, and make it a top priority.
8. Keep up the simple things. Try to do a small act of kindness or love every day.
9. Build a support network. Ask for support from family and friends. Consider hiring professional assistance. Don’t be shy about requesting help; you can’t do it alone.
Edited, original article AgingCare.com